When going on a first date, keep in mind a few things to get you through it. Don't take yourself too seriously. Have fun and think of it as practice. Be an active listener by maintaining eye contact - this will keep your attention from wandering. Affirm that you are listening by asking questions and clarifying meanings. Too many times we assume we know what someone means, but it helps to ask for clarification if you are not sure. This also shows you are listening. By actually listening instead of only thinking about what you will say, you learn more about whether another date is worth it or not.